Under 35
Eighteen to thirty-five, looking for people at the same stage of life and the same pace.
Tribes are new: the first people to add this get found first by everyone who joins after.
Under 35 is one of FetLife's biggest groups because the scene can feel older than it is: the munch you find first may be people who've been doing this for twenty years, and that's a lot to walk into at twenty-three. There are many TNG groups (The Next Generation, 18 to 35) in larger cities for exactly this reason, and many of them are on the city pages here.
On a card, "Under 35" says you're looking for people at the same stage: similar schedules, similar budgets, similar pace. It doesn't say you won't talk to anyone older; it says who you'd most like to find first.
What younger members tend to say they want from a site like this: discretion (no real names, a face you choose), no pressure to perform experience they don't have, and people their own age to go to a first munch with. The guides cover the first two; the room filter covers the third.
Put it on your card
Join free, say who you are and what you're looking for, and the people who share this find you in one tap. No real names, nothing explicit.
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