Our no-spam promise

What can't go on a card

• Contact details and other apps. Emails, phone numbers, @handles, Kik, Snapchat, Telegram, WhatsApp, Discord, Instagram, OnlyFans, Fansly. A bio with any of them won't save. People reach you here, and you decide who.
• Anything for sale. Rates, prices, tributes, findom, pay pigs, sugar arrangements, custom content, paid sessions, escorts. A bio that reads as selling won't save.
• Free-text ads. There aren't any. What you are and what you're looking for are fixed choices, so the seeking board is a list of real cards, not a wall of ads.
• Anything about minors. Ever, anywhere. Accounts are 18+; a card, message or photo that reads otherwise is removed and the account is closed.

What happens to a first message

Every first message is screened before it reaches you. One with contact details, a sales pitch or explicit wording goes to your Requests folder instead of your inbox, for everyone, unless you switch that off. The sender isn't told; you read it when you like, or never.

What you control

• Who can write to you first: only people you've liked, only verified people, only people with a real photo, only people who fit what you're looking for, no brand-new accounts. Tick any. Privacy & area.
• Who can see you at all: hide your card from men, women, couples or non-binary people, everywhere on the site. Hide my card from.
• The verified badge: a phone that answered a code and a selfie we checked and threw away. Couples can add the Both-of-us badge: one photo of them together, checked and deleted. Get verified.
• Report and block: one tap on any card or message. Reports are read by a person; we publish what we remove in the transparency report.