Tribes

New to this

Curious, careful and just starting. The biggest group on FetLife is newcomers; here they're the people everyone else was once.

Kinky & geeky

Games, comics, science, sci-fi, tabletop, code. The people for whom a scene and a campaign have a lot in common.

Curvy, and the people who love curves

Curvy, plus-size, thick, soft, and the people who want exactly that. Attraction said plainly instead of apologised for.

Under 35

Eighteen to thirty-five, looking for people at the same stage of life and the same pace.

40 and over

Forty and up: experience, patience, and no interest in playing games that aren't the agreed kind.

1 member

Night owl

Awake at three in the morning on purpose. Shift workers, insomniacs and people whose good hours are the late ones.

Bookish & brainy

Intelligence is the kink, or at least the way in. Readers, writers, people who want the conversation first.

Inked & pierced

Tattoos, piercings, mods, and the people who like them. A body that already tells a story.

420-friendly

Cannabis-friendly, where it's legal. Not an invitation to mix it with play that needs a clear head; a sign of how you like to unwind.

Cuddle-first

Aftercare people. Touch, closeness and being held matter as much as anything that comes before.

Sober & kinky

No alcohol, or none around play. Clear heads, clear consent, and people who won't hand you a drink.

Kinky & queer

LGBTQ+ and kinky. The scene grew up in queer spaces; this is the corner that never forgot it.

1 member

Introvert

Recharged by quiet. Prefers one good conversation to a loud party, and a munch at a corner table to a crowded night.