420-friendly
Cannabis-friendly, where it's legal. Not an invitation to mix it with play that needs a clear head; a sign of how you like to unwind.
Tribes are new: the first people to add this get found first by everyone who joins after.
Cannabis Kink has more than sixty thousand members on FetLife. On a card here, 420-friendly says how you like to unwind and what kind of evening you'd enjoy: it is a social tag, in places where cannabis is legal.
The scene's own rule is worth repeating: consent needs a clear head, and most play spaces ban intoxication for that reason. People who are 420-friendly keep it apart from negotiation and from anything that needs judgement: a smoke after, not before.
If you'd rather nobody you meet partakes, the sober tag is the other filter. Both are about the kind of person you'll get along with, not about what happens in a scene. Where cannabis isn't legal, leave this one off; it's a tag for places where it's an ordinary part of life.
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