Night owl
Awake at three in the morning on purpose. Shift workers, insomniacs and people whose good hours are the late ones.
Tribes are new: the first people to add this get found first by everyone who joins after.
People Who Are Awake at 3:00 a.m. has over a hundred thousand members on FetLife: shift workers, insomniacs, bartenders, nurses, people in other time zones, and people whose good hours are the late ones. If your life runs at night, a daytime munch is hard to get to and a 9 p.m. message is the start of your day.
On a card it says when you're around, which is half of meeting anyone. It also tells people why you reply at strange hours and that you'd rather get to know someone in a late conversation than over a Saturday brunch.
Night owls tend to find each other in late events (clubs and parties run past midnight; your city page shows which), in long-distance dynamics that work across time zones, and in the people who list themselves as around this week.
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