First time in Milan: where to start
Whether you're new to all of this or just new to Milan, the order is the same: a munch, then a class, then a party when you're ready. Here is each step with the real places and their next dates.
Go to a munch. Nothing needed.
A clothes-on social in a public place. Turn up, buy a drink, say it's your first time. This is where you find out what's actually on, and who runs it well.
The groups that run things here
- Leather & Fetish Milano (The Hole) · The Hole roughly monthly; 12th Anniversary 2026-09-27, then 2026-10-17, 11-21, 12-12; I…
Take a class. Drop-ins are normal.
Rope and skills studios are used to strangers and sell single-class tickets online. A beginners' class is the easiest first evening, and the people in it are at your stage.
- Rope Tales / School of Rope · PracticeMilan · says newcomers welcome
A private shibari and kinbaku studio in eastern Milan offering a beginner-to-suspension course track: a lesson every Wednesday evening (8:30-11pm) with practice sessions on Tuesdays and Thursdays, plus intensives and…
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A party, when you're ready. Start this early.
Most parties want a membership, an orientation or a vetting chat booked days or weeks ahead, and many sell out. Read each one's rules on their own site, and go to your first with no plan to play.
- ULM – Ultimo Lunedì del Mese · EventVia Mondovì 7 (Nautilus Club), Milan · says newcomers welcome · membership, orientation or vetting first
The historic Milanese BDSM play party, held since 1998 on the last Monday of each month at the Nautilus club, and considered the first BDSM party in Italy. The evening starts with an aperitivo until 9:30pm followed by…
Their site ↗ (opens in a new tab) - Sadistique · EventVia Mondovì 7 (Nautilus Club), Milan · membership, orientation or vetting first
Italy's best-known monthly BDSM party, running since 2005 on the first Sunday afternoon of each month at the Nautilus club in Via Mondovì. Each edition has a theme and mandatory dress code, with kinky workshops, art s…
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Before you go
- Munches need nothing
- A munch is a clothes-on social in a public place. Turn up, buy a drink, say you're visiting. It is the fastest way to find out what's actually on that week.
- Parties need lead time
- Most play parties want a membership, an orientation or a vetting chat booked days or weeks ahead, and many sell out. Start that before you travel, not after you land.
- Dress codes are real
- Fetish club nights turn people away at the door for ordinary clothes. Read the code on the event page and pack for it.
- Classes welcome drop-ins
- Rope and skills studios are used to visitors and usually sell single-class tickets online. A beginners' class is the easiest first night in a new city.