Kink events and community in New York City
10 public kink listings in New York City: munches, rope and shibari classes, play spaces, community groups and shops, each linked to the organizer's own site. Free to browse, no account.
New York's scene runs through organizations and studios that rent space rather than through standalone clubs, so the calendar matters more than any one address.
Read before you go
What is a munch?
The clothes-on social meetup nearly everyone starts with, and how to find yours in New York City.
What is a play party?
How private parties work, how you get invited to one, and what the house rules mean.
Staying private
Keeping this separate from work and family, from email addresses to photos.
What's on in New York City
Munches, classes, workshops and parties with a date on them, posted by the organizers themselves.
Sex-positive events and classes
3 studios teach rope, shibari and skills classes in New York City, and 4 community organizations run the munches, workshops and socials around them; both are the clothes-on, beginner-friendly way in.
Dungeons & play spaces
All 1Dedicated, member-run or commercial spaces with their own house rules and a public website. Most require membership or an orientation before your first visit.
Classes & studios
All 3Beginner-friendly rope and shibari studios, skills workshops and education series for adults. The safest way to learn anything is from people who teach it regularly.
Coil & Cord
Queer-owned studio, gallery and rope space hosting rope workshops, jams, craft programming and exhibitions.
NYC Shibari
Rope studio offering shibari classes, private lessons, performances and photo productions.
Temple New York
Rope bondage education and community space teaching Japanese-inspired rope with emphasis on risk management and consent.
Organizations
All 4Nonprofits, clubs and community groups. These are the people who run the calendar.
Hit Me Up NYC
Vetted membership community for polyamory and kink that runs workshops, mixers and members' events.
Kink Out
NYC-based collective producing panels, performances and community gatherings about leather and kink culture and activism.
Lesbian Sex Mafia (LSM)
Long-running NYC education and social group for women and trans/nonbinary people interested in kink.
The Eulenspiegel Society (TES)
Volunteer-run nonprofit founded in 1971 that offers BDSM education classes, discussion groups and socials for the New York tri-state area.
Shops
All 2Brick-and-mortar leather and gear shops. Staff tend to know what's happening locally.
Munches
A munch is a casual, clothes-on social meetup in a public place like a restaurant or coffee shop. It's the standard first step into a local community.
Conventions nearby
Full calendar| When | Event | Where |
|---|---|---|
| Jul 2–5, 2027 | TES Fest | NJ |
Hear what's on near you
A short note when something worth knowing about is happening in your city. No account, a few emails a month at most, and one click to stop.
Common questions
How do I find BDSM events in New York City?
Start with the 10 public listings on this page: every one is an independent group, studio, space or shop in New York City with its own website and recent activity, and we link straight to it. For dates, the New York City calendar shows munches, classes and parties posted by the organizers themselves. Hedonist doesn't run or vet the events, so read the host's own rules before you go. See the New York City calendar.
Can newcomers go to a munch in New York City alone?
Yes, and most people do. A munch is a casual, clothes-on social meetup in a public place like a restaurant or coffee shop, with no play and no dress code. Nobody expects you to know anyone, and organizers are used to first-timers arriving on their own. Your first munch: what to expect and wear.
Is there a dungeon or play space in New York City?
Yes. 1 public play space is listed in the dungeons and play spaces section of this page. Nearly all require membership, an orientation or an RSVP before a first visit, and most only share the address after you sign up. All play spaces in New York City.
Is FetLife the only way to find local kink events?
No. FetLife needs an account and a login before it shows anything, and search engines can't see inside it. This page is public: every New York City listing here has its own open website, and the calendar shows dates without an account. If a group you know only exists on FetLife, ask its organizer to add it here for free.