Kink events and community in Paris
7 public kink listings in Paris: munches, rope and shibari classes, play spaces, community groups and shops, each linked to the organizer's own site. Free to browse, no account.
PariS-M's parties, a rope school, Nuit Dèmonia, and Paris Fetish Week: Paris publishes its dates.
Read before you go
What is a munch?
The clothes-on social meetup nearly everyone starts with, and how to find yours in Paris.
What is a play party?
How private parties work, how you get invited to one, and what the house rules mean.
Staying private
Keeping this separate from work and family, from email addresses to photos.
What's on in Paris
Munches, classes, workshops and parties with a date on them, posted by the organizers themselves.
Sex-positive events and classes
One studio teaches rope, shibari and skills classes in Paris, and 5 community organizations run the munches, workshops and socials around them; both are the clothes-on, beginner-friendly way in.
Classes & studios
All 1Beginner-friendly rope and shibari studios, skills workshops and education series for adults. The safest way to learn anything is from people who teach it regularly.
Organizations
All 5Nonprofits, clubs and community groups. These are the people who run the calendar.
Dèmonia (Nuit Dèmonia / Paris Fetish Week)
France's longest-running fetish and BDSM event producer (since 1993), also a BDSM boutique with a shop floor in the 11th arrondissement. Its flagship Nuit Dèmonia is a large ticketed club night with a strict latex/leather/vinyl dress code, a supervised dungeon area and volunteer 'Angels' from PariS-M; it also runs smaller 'Play' parties and the annual Paris Fetish Week (market, workshops, parties). Tickets are sold online through Shotgun.
Du Bruit Dans La Cage (DBDLC)
An arts-and-culture association for the LGBTQIA+ and BDSM communities, formalised in 2023 after starting as an Instagram community. It runs a weekly 'Munch XL Hebdo' social plus talks and events, with a published code of conduct and a seasonal membership (from 20 EUR) that unlocks the calendar and discounts. Sign up for events through its HelloAsso page; the munch is sliding-scale.
Kink Me
A Paris techno party collective with an inclusive, LGBTQ+ and fetish-dress-code crowd, held a few times a year in changing clubs (Le Noctis, Le Saint Merri, venues in Saint-Denis). Editions have themes ('Confession', 'Last Day On Earth') and sometimes a dungeon area with Master Squat. Tickets are sold on Shotgun; follow the Shotgun page for the next date.
KinkX (Rub'Zone / PlayX / Don't Tell Mum)
Organiser of an annual gay fetish weekend in Paris with four themed club nights: RubX (rubber, PVC and latex), PlayX (sportswear), PupX (puppy play) and Don't Tell Mum (general kinky party). Attendance is by weekend pass or single tickets sold on its site; dress codes apply per party.
PariS-M
A BDSM and kink association founded in 2008 that focuses on safety, prevention and welcoming newcomers. It runs three monthly munches (the Apé'rencontre at a public bar, a Dîner-Débat and an online E-munch) plus beginner workshops such as 'Premiers pas dans le BDSM'. Annual membership is 10-20 EUR via HelloAsso; new members get a welcome safety kit, and munches are open to anyone who signs up.
Shops
All 1Brick-and-mortar leather and gear shops. Staff tend to know what's happening locally.
Munches
A munch is a casual, clothes-on social meetup in a public place like a restaurant or coffee shop. It's the standard first step into a local community.
Hear what's on near you
A short note when something worth knowing about is happening in your city. No account, a few emails a month at most, and one click to stop.
Common questions
How do I find BDSM events in Paris?
Start with the 7 public listings on this page: every one is an independent group, studio, space or shop in Paris with its own website and recent activity, and we link straight to it. For dates, the Paris calendar shows munches, classes and parties posted by the organizers themselves. Hedonist doesn't run or vet the events, so read the host's own rules before you go. See the Paris calendar.
Can newcomers go to a munch in Paris alone?
Yes, and most people do. A munch is a casual, clothes-on social meetup in a public place like a restaurant or coffee shop, with no play and no dress code. Nobody expects you to know anyone, and organizers are used to first-timers arriving on their own. Your first munch: what to expect and wear.
Is there a dungeon or play space in Paris?
Not one with its own public website, as far as we've found. In many cities the community rents space for events instead, so the organizations and calendar here are the way in. The nearest cities with a listed play space are Brighton, United Kingdom (282 km), Antwerp, Belgium (301 km), London, United Kingdom (343 km).
Is FetLife the only way to find local kink events?
No. FetLife needs an account and a login before it shows anything, and search engines can't see inside it. This page is public: every Paris listing here has its own open website, and the calendar shows dates without an account. If a group you know only exists on FetLife, ask its organizer to add it here for free.