What is a Exhibitionist?
Being watched sharpens everything.
Knowing there's an audience changes the experience for you, and improves it. In practice this is most of why play parties and dungeons exist as public spaces at all.
Consent runs both ways here, which surprises people. Everyone in a well-run space has agreed to be somewhere things happen, and every space has rules about where.
The other half of the pair is Voyeur. You learn more from watching than from being told, and you enjoy it.
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What is an exhibitionist?
Knowing there's an audience changes the experience for you, and improves it. In practice this is most of why play parties and dungeons exist as public spaces at all.
What is an exhibitionist not?
This is about being watched by people who came to watch. Involving anyone who hasn't agreed is a different thing entirely and it's a crime.
Which roles pair with an exhibitionist?
The natural pair is a voyeur. You learn more from watching than from being told, and you enjoy it. That is a starting point rather than a rule: most people describe themselves with several roles at once, and what fits changes with the partner.
How do I know if I'm an exhibitionist?
Being watched sharpens everything. If that reads as familiar, the free BDSM test scores it in thirty-two plain questions, in your browser, with nothing sent to us. After that, the best place to find out for real is in person: member spaces and dungeons are built for exactly this, with house rules that make it work.
This is a plain-language guide, not a psychological assessment, and no term here is better than another. People describe themselves with several of these at once, and what fits changes over time.